In our face-to-face conversations, men tend to use the communication modes of power, report, information, and conflict. Women prefer to use solidarity, rapport, community, and avoidance. In online communication women are slightly more likely to employ conflict and men are slightly more open to using rapport. However, for men the use of rapport is at odds with the face-to-face behavior which creates dissonance in the perceived authenticity. By understanding these eight different modes of communication you can be more reflective on how you are communicating and refine your message to build authenticity.
As Millennials seek to make a difference, it should be the responsibility of non-profits to engage their volunteers in training to make clear the importance of genuine cultivation and stewardship as a preface to effective asking and engagement. Volunteer training should not focus just on building endurance for the upcoming marathon, but should also spend some time educating on the strengths and weaknesses of permission marketing and their responsibilities as volunteer fundraisers.